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Free Bereavement Leave Policy Templates

Free bereavement leave policy templates for small business: tiered by relationship, state-aware (CA, IL, OR, WA), plus pregnancy-loss coverage. DOCX.

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Nick Anisimov

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Bereavement Leave Policy Templates

Five free bereavement policy templates for small business, built around a tiered-by-relationship structure with inline state-law awareness and pregnancy-loss coverage: a standard tiered policy, a simple one-page version, a generous paid version, a state-aware version, and a reproductive-loss policy. Download as DOCX.

A bereavement leave policy explains how much time off your employees get after the death of a family member or someone close, whether it is paid, and how to request it. It is one of the most common benefits in the country, offered by roughly nine in ten employers, yet the small business without a dedicated HR person often handles each loss differently, in the moment, at exactly the wrong time to be improvising. A written policy replaces that with one clear, compassionate rule for everyone.

These five templates are built for that reality: a standard policy tiered by relationship, a simple one-page small-business version, a generous paid version, a state-aware version covering the states that mandate leave, and a pregnancy and reproductive-loss policy. Each downloads as a Word document, free and without an email. Because a bereavement policy is one section of your broader people operations, it pairs naturally with your HR policy manual and employee handbook.

TL;DR
A bereavement leave policy sets how much time off employees get after a death, whether it is paid, and how to request it. Most policies tier leave by relationship: around 5 days for immediate family, 3 to 4 for extended, 1 to 2 for close friends. There is no federal requirement, but six states mandate it (CA, IL, MD, OR, VT, WA), and modern policies increasingly cover pregnancy loss. Download five free templates as DOCX, including state-aware and reproductive-loss versions, then have counsel review. This is general information, not legal advice.

What a Bereavement Policy Is

A bereavement leave policy is a written set of rules for time off after a death: what is covered, how much time employees get, whether it is paid, and how they request it. It turns a sensitive, case-by-case judgment into a consistent, fair standard that a manager can apply without guessing during an employee's hardest week.

The policy is sometimes called a funeral leave policy, which skews slightly toward attending the service, or a compassionate leave policy, which is mostly UK and Australian phrasing. In the US, bereavement is the standard term, and the document is the same. It usually lives in the employee handbook and ends with a signed acknowledgment. This page provides the core policy and several focused variations together.

How Many Days: The Tiered Structure

There is no legal default for how many days to give, so most policies tier leave by how close the relationship is: more time for immediate family, less for extended family and friends. This tiered structure is the single most useful thing to get right, and it is what separates a thoughtful policy from a flat one that says give employees a fixed number of days.

Immediate family
5 days
Spouse or domestic partner, child, parent, sibling. The closest relationships, given the most time in nearly every policy.
Extended family
3 to 4 days
Grandparent, grandchild, in-laws, step-relatives. Significant but usually a step below immediate family.
Other close relationships
1 to 2 days
Aunt, uncle, cousin, niece, nephew, and increasingly close friends or chosen family that policies used to ignore.
A Near-Universal, Tiered Benefit
Roughly 91 percent of US employers offer some paid bereavement leave, one of the most consistently offered paid benefits (SHRM). Benchmark survey averages tier the days by relationship, with immediate family receiving the most, and grandparent-only leave offered by just 4 percent of employers.

The amounts above are a starting point drawn from common benchmarks, not a rule. A small business might simplify to a flat 3 paid days for any close loss; a company using bereavement as a retention signal might offer 10 or more days for immediate family. What matters is writing the tiers down and applying them the same way every time.

What to Include

A complete bereavement policy moves from the basics of eligibility and leave amount, through how a request works, to compliance and support. The sections below are the consensus set that a strong policy covers, whether it is one page or several.

The basics
Purpose and who is eligible
Leave amount, by relationship tier
Paid or unpaid, and the pay rate
How it works
How to request and notice expectations
Documentation, if any, kept confidential
Intermittent use and the timeframe to use it
Compliance
Interaction with PTO, sick leave, and FMLA
State-law awareness where employees work
A not-legal-advice disclaimer
Support
Return-to-work flexibility
Grief or EAP resources, if offered
A signed acknowledgment for the file

The parts most templates skip, and the ones that add the most value, are inline state-law awareness, a clear pregnancy-loss position, and a real return-to-work approach. The companion templates on this page cover the first two directly, and the standard policy addresses the third.

State Bereavement Leave Laws

Federal law does not require bereavement leave, and the FMLA does not cover grieving a death, but a growing number of states do require it. Only six states have dedicated bereavement laws, each structured differently, and because the obligation follows the employee's work location, a remote team can bring several states' rules into play at once.

California (AB 1949)
Employers with 5 or more employees must give an employee who has worked at least 30 days up to 5 days of bereavement leave for the death of a spouse, child, parent, sibling, grandparent, grandchild, domestic partner, or parent-in-law. The days need not be consecutive and must be used within 3 months. The leave is unpaid unless the employer's policy provides paid leave, and the employer may request documentation within 30 days.
Illinois (Family Bereavement Leave Act)
Employers covered by the FMLA (generally 50 or more employees) must give eligible employees up to 2 weeks (10 workdays) of unpaid leave per qualifying event, and up to 6 weeks for multiple events in 12 months. Notably, it covers pregnancy- and fertility-related losses, including miscarriage, stillbirth, and a failed adoption, surrogacy, or reproductive procedure. Leave must be completed within 60 days.
Oregon and Washington
Oregon's Family Leave Act allows up to 2 weeks of bereavement leave per death, up to 12 weeks a year for multiple losses. Washington provides bereavement leave through its Paid Family and Medical Leave program; as of July 1, 2026, SB 5217 raises the maximum from 3 to 7 days and allows it to be used any time within 12 months of the death.
Maryland, Vermont, Colorado, and Minnesota
Only six states have dedicated bereavement laws: California, Illinois, Maryland, Oregon, Vermont, and Washington. Maryland lets employees at employers with 15 or more use accrued paid leave for bereavement, Colorado and Minnesota cover it through paid sick leave, and Minnesota's paid leave program launched in 2026. The obligation follows the employee's work location, so a remote team can trigger several states' rules at once.
Obligations Follow the Employee's Location
Only six states have dedicated bereavement leave laws: California, Illinois, Maryland, Oregon, Vermont, and Washington, with Colorado and Minnesota covering it through paid sick leave. A single remote hire in one of these states can create a new obligation regardless of where your company is based. Confirm the current rule for every state where your employees work, since these laws change frequently. This is general information, not legal advice.

The safest approach for a small or distributed team is a base company policy generous enough to satisfy most states, plus awareness of the specific mandates where your people actually work. The state-aware template is built around exactly that, and pairs with your state-specific obligations in the compliance hub.

Which Template Should You Use?

Start with the standard tiered policy, or the one-page version if you are early-stage, then layer in the pieces that fit you. Use the generous version if bereavement is a retention priority, the state-aware version if you employ people in a mandate state, and the reproductive-loss policy to cover pregnancy loss.

Standard Bereavement Policy (Tiered)
The flagship
The core policy with leave tiered by relationship (5 days immediate, 3 extended, 1 close friend), paid, with request, documentation, return-to-work, and an acknowledgment. The benchmark structure to adapt.
Small-Business Policy
Simple, 1-page
A short, plain-language version for a small or early-stage company: a flat 3 paid days, first-day eligibility, minimal admin. Simple to adopt and grow from later.
Paid / Generous Policy
Retention differentiator
A more competitive version with larger tiers (10 days immediate) and intermittent use over 12 months, for employers who want bereavement leave to support culture and retention.
State-Aware Policy
CA, IL, MD, OR, WA
A version with inline coverage of the states that mandate bereavement leave, since the obligation follows the employee's work location. The piece almost every other template skips.
Pregnancy & Reproductive Loss
2026 norms
A companion policy covering miscarriage, stillbirth, failed adoption or surrogacy, and IVF loss, with privacy and an optional pet-loss clause. What most templates overlook.
Match the Template to Your Situation
Setting up a real policy: the Standard Tiered version. Small and early-stage: the one-page Small-Business version. Competing on culture: the Generous Paid version. Employing people in CA, IL, MD, OR, or WA: add the State-Aware version. Want to cover miscarriage and reproductive loss: add the Pregnancy Loss version. Then fill in your tiers and specifics, and have counsel review before adopting.

5 Free Bereavement Policy Templates

Download all five as a single Word document or copy individual templates. The standard tiered policy is the core; the small-business, generous, and state-aware versions cover specific situations; and the reproductive-loss policy adds a section most templates omit. Fill in your tiers, paid amounts, and state specifics, and have counsel review before you adopt.

Download All 5 Bereavement Policy Templates
A standard tiered policy, a one-page small-business version, a generous paid version, a state-aware version, and a pregnancy-loss policy. All in one DOCX.

Template 1: Standard Bereavement Leave Policy (Tiered)

The core policy, with leave tiered by relationship, paid, and covering eligibility, request, documentation, state law, and return to work. Built on common benchmark averages. The foundation to adapt.

Standard Bereavement Leave Policy (Tiered)
BEREAVEMENT LEAVE POLICY
[Company Name]
Effective date: _ Policy owner: __
Last reviewed: _

1. PURPOSE

[Company Name] provides paid bereavement leave so employees can grieve, attend a
funeral or memorial, and handle the arrangements that follow the death of a loved
one. We recognize that grief affects people differently, and we aim to support our
team members with dignity and flexibility during a difficult time.

2. ELIGIBILITY

All [full-time] employees are eligible for paid bereavement leave from their [first
day / after 30 days] of employment. [State how part-time employees are treated,
for example prorated or unpaid.] Contractors and temporary workers may be granted
leave at the company's discretion.

3. LEAVE BY RELATIONSHIP (TIERED)

Paid bereavement leave is provided based on your relationship to the person who
died. These are baseline amounts; managers may approve additional unpaid time or
allow use of PTO.
Immediate family: up to 5 paid days
(spouse, domestic partner, child, parent, sibling)
Extended family: up to 3 paid days
(grandparent, grandchild, parent-in-law, sibling-in-law, step-relatives)
Other close relationships: up to 1 paid day
(aunt, uncle, cousin, niece, nephew, close friend, or chosen family)
[Adjust these tiers and relationships to fit your company. The tiers above reflect
common benchmark averages.]

4. PAY

Bereavement leave under this policy is paid at the employee's regular base rate for
scheduled workdays that fall within the leave. Bereavement pay does not include
overtime, bonuses, or premiums. Leave beyond the paid amounts above may be taken as
unpaid leave or, with approval, as accrued PTO.

5. HOW TO REQUEST LEAVE

Notify your manager or [HR contact] as soon as reasonably possible. We understand a
death is often sudden, so advance notice is not required. Let us know the expected
dates so we can plan coverage. The days need not be taken all at once; you may use
them across a reasonable period following the death.

6. DOCUMENTATION

We do not routinely require documentation. If needed, [Company Name] may request
reasonable verification such as an obituary, a funeral program, or a note from a
funeral home. Any documentation is kept confidential.

7. RELATIONSHIP TO OTHER LEAVE AND STATE LAW

This policy runs alongside any other leave you are entitled to, including PTO, sick
leave, and any leave required by your state. Where a state or local law provides
more generous bereavement rights than this policy, the law applies. [See the state
notes in the companion state-aware template if you employ people in CA, IL, MD, OR,
VT, WA, CO, or MN.]

8. RETURN TO WORK

We will work with you on a smooth return, including a flexible schedule where
reasonable. If you need additional support, ask your manager or [HR contact] about
available resources [such as an employee assistance program, if offered].

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

I acknowledge that I have received and read the [Company Name] Bereavement Leave
Policy.
Employee signature: __ Date: _

DISCLAIMER: This is a sample template for general informational purposes only and is
not legal advice, and not a guarantee of compliance. Bereavement leave requirements
vary by state and change over time. Have this policy reviewed and adapted by a
qualified employment attorney before adopting it.

Template 2: Small-Business Bereavement Policy (Simple, 1-Page)

A short, plain-language version for a small or early-stage company: a flat 3 paid days, first-day eligibility, and minimal admin. Simple to adopt now and grow from later.

Small-Business Bereavement Policy (Simple, 1-Page)
BEREAVEMENT LEAVE POLICY (SMALL BUSINESS)
[Company Name]
Effective date: _
A short, plain-language bereavement policy for a small business. Simple to adopt,
easy to apply, and generous enough to support your team. Expand into the tiered
version as you grow.

OUR POLICY

When someone close to you dies, you should not have to worry about work. [Company
Name] provides up to 3 paid days of bereavement leave following the death of a
family member or someone close to you. You are eligible from your first day.
Family members include a spouse or partner, child, parent, sibling, grandparent,
grandchild, and in-laws. If your loss falls outside this list, talk to us; we will
be reasonable.

HOW IT WORKS

Tell your manager as soon as you can. No advance notice is needed.
Take the days together or spread them out over a reasonable period.
Need more time? We can arrange additional unpaid days or let you use PTO.
We will not ask for documentation unless there is an unusual situation.

IF THE LAW SAYS MORE

Some states require specific bereavement leave. If your state does, and it provides
more than this policy, the state rule applies. [If you employ people in CA, IL, MD,
OR, VT, WA, CO, or MN, review the state-aware version and confirm your obligations.]

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

I acknowledge that I have received and read this Bereavement Leave Policy.
Employee signature: __ Date: _

DISCLAIMER: This is a sample template for general information only and is not legal
advice. Have it reviewed by a qualified employment attorney before adopting it.
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Template 3: Paid / Generous Bereavement Leave Policy

A competitive version with larger tiers (up to 10 days immediate family) and intermittent use over 12 months, for employers who want bereavement leave to support culture and retention.

Paid / Generous Bereavement Leave Policy
PAID BEREAVEMENT LEAVE POLICY (GENEROUS)
[Company Name]
Effective date: _ Policy owner: __
A more generous, competitive bereavement policy for employers who want leave to be a
retention and culture differentiator. Grief affects focus and wellbeing for months,
so this policy provides more time and more flexibility than the minimum.

1. PAID LEAVE BY RELATIONSHIP

Immediate family: up to 10 paid days
(spouse, domestic partner, child, parent, sibling)
Extended family: up to 5 paid days
(grandparent, grandchild, in-laws, step-relatives)
Other close relationships: up to 3 paid days
(aunt, uncle, cousin, niece, nephew, close friend, chosen family, household member)

2. FLEXIBLE AND INTERMITTENT USE

Grief is not linear. You may use your bereavement days intermittently over the
[12 months] following the death, rather than all at once, to accommodate delayed
services, cultural or religious practices, estate matters, or later grief support.

3. PAY AND ADDITIONAL TIME

Bereavement leave is paid at your regular base rate. If you need more time than the
paid amounts above, you may request additional unpaid leave or use accrued PTO, and
we will consider reasonable requests case by case.

4. SUPPORT BEYOND TIME OFF

[Company Name] also offers [an employee assistance program / grief counseling
resources / a flexible return-to-work schedule]. Talk to [HR contact] about what is
available. A manager should check in on return, not to rush you, but to help you
ease back in.

5. HOW TO REQUEST AND STATE LAW

Notify your manager or [HR contact] as soon as reasonable; no advance notice is
required. This policy runs alongside any leave your state requires, and where a
state law is more generous, that law applies.

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

I acknowledge that I have received and read the [Company Name] Paid Bereavement Leave
Policy.
Employee signature: __ Date: _

DISCLAIMER: This is a sample template for general information only and is not legal
advice. Confirm your state requirements and have this policy reviewed by a qualified
employment attorney before adopting it.

Template 4: State-Aware Bereavement Policy

A version with inline coverage of the states that mandate bereavement leave, including California, Illinois, Oregon, Washington, and Maryland, since the obligation follows the employee's work location.

State-Aware Bereavement Policy (CA, IL, MD, OR, WA)
STATE-AWARE BEREAVEMENT LEAVE POLICY
[Company Name]
Effective date: _ Last reviewed: _
Use this version if you employ people in a state with a dedicated bereavement leave
law. The obligation follows the employee's work location, not your headquarters, so
a single remote hire in one of these states can create a new duty. Confirm current
rules with counsel; these laws change.

1. BASE COMPANY POLICY

[Company Name] provides up to [5] paid days of bereavement leave for immediate
family and [3] paid days for extended family, per the tiers in our standard policy.
The state provisions below apply on top of this base policy for employees in those
states, and where a state rule is more generous, the state rule controls.

2. CALIFORNIA (AB 1949)

Employers with 5 or more employees must allow an employee who has worked at least
30 days to take up to 5 days of bereavement leave for the death of a spouse, child,
parent, sibling, grandparent, grandchild, domestic partner, or parent-in-law. The
days need not be consecutive and must be used within 3 months of the death. The
leave is unpaid unless the employer's policy provides paid leave, though the
employee may use available paid leave. The employer may request documentation
within 30 days, kept confidential.

3. ILLINOIS (FAMILY BEREAVEMENT LEAVE ACT)

Employers covered by the federal FMLA (generally 50 or more employees) must provide
eligible employees (12 months and 1,250 hours worked) up to 2 weeks (10 workdays) of
unpaid leave per qualifying event, and up to 6 weeks total for multiple events in a
12-month period. Covered events include the death of a covered family member and
pregnancy- or fertility-related losses such as miscarriage, stillbirth, a failed
adoption or surrogacy, and an unsuccessful reproductive procedure. Leave must be
completed within 60 days of notice of the event.

4. OREGON (OFLA)

Under the Oregon Family Leave Act, eligible employees may take up to 2 weeks of
bereavement leave per family member's death, up to a total of 12 weeks in a
one-year period for multiple deaths.

5. WASHINGTON (PFML, SB 5217)

Washington's Paid Family and Medical Leave program provides bereavement leave. As of
July 1, 2026, SB 5217 increases the maximum from 3 to 7 days and lets employees take
it any time within 12 months after the family member's death, replacing the prior
7-day usage window.

6. MARYLAND AND OTHER STATES

Maryland: employees at employers with 15 or more employees may use accrued paid
(sick and safe) leave for bereavement. Vermont provides bereavement leave under its
paid leave law. Colorado and Minnesota let employees use paid sick leave for
bereavement-related needs, and Minnesota's paid leave program launched in 2026.
Confirm the current rule for each state where your employees work.

7. MONITORING

State bereavement laws change frequently, and additional states have bills pending.
Review this policy at least [annually], record the last-reviewed date above, and
confirm requirements with employment counsel.

DISCLAIMER: This is a sample template for general information only and is not legal
advice, and not a guarantee of compliance. State bereavement laws vary and change
frequently. Confirm current requirements for every state where your employees work,
and have this policy reviewed by a qualified employment attorney before adopting it.
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Template 5: Pregnancy & Reproductive Loss Bereavement Policy

A companion policy covering miscarriage, stillbirth, failed adoption or surrogacy, and IVF loss, with strong privacy and an optional pet-loss clause. What most templates overlook, and what Illinois requires.

Pregnancy & Reproductive Loss Bereavement Policy
PREGNANCY AND REPRODUCTIVE LOSS BEREAVEMENT POLICY
[Company Name]
Effective date: _
Add this section to your bereavement policy to cover losses that traditional
policies overlook. About four in ten employers that offer bereavement leave now
extend it to pregnancy or reproductive loss, and some states require it. This policy
provides that support with privacy and compassion.

1. COVERED EVENTS

[Company Name] provides paid bereavement leave for the following losses experienced
by an employee or their spouse or partner:
A miscarriage or stillbirth
A failed adoption match or an adoption that is not finalized
A failed surrogacy agreement
An unsuccessful assisted-reproduction procedure, such as IVF
A diagnosis that negatively affects pregnancy or fertility

2. LEAVE AMOUNT

Eligible employees may take up to [5] paid days per qualifying event, with
additional unpaid time or PTO available on request. [Adjust to fit your policy; some
states, such as Illinois, require up to 2 weeks of unpaid leave for these events.]

3. PRIVACY

These losses are deeply personal. You are not required to explain the specific
event to request leave, and we will not ask you to disclose it. Any documentation,
if requested, is limited to what is reasonable and is kept strictly confidential.

4. OPTIONAL: LOSS OF A PET

[Optional clause: Recognizing that pets are family, [Company Name] provides up to
1 paid day for the loss of a companion animal.] [Remove this clause if it does not
fit your company.]

5. SUPPORT AND STATE LAW

We encourage you to use [our employee assistance program / available counseling
resources]. Where a state law provides greater rights for pregnancy or reproductive
loss, that law applies; Illinois, for example, covers these events under its Family
Bereavement Leave Act.

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

I acknowledge that I have received and read this Pregnancy and Reproductive Loss
Bereavement Policy.
Employee signature: __ Date: _

DISCLAIMER: This is a sample template for general information only and is not legal
advice. Some states mandate leave for these events. Confirm your state requirements
and have this policy reviewed by a qualified employment attorney before adopting it.

Bereavement Leave for a Small Business

A large company has an HR team to write a bereavement policy, track state law, and apply it consistently. A small business has an owner or an office manager who faces the same grieving employee and the same state rules, without that support. Here is what matters most at that scale.

Almost every template gives you a single generic policy and hides state law elsewhere
Search for a bereavement policy and most of what ranks is one flat template that says give employees [X] days, with state law buried in a separate laws-by-state article you have to find on your own. That split is exactly where a small business gets caught, because the state rules are what carry legal weight. The templates here do the opposite: they ship a tiered default built on common benchmark averages, and a companion state-aware version that names California, Illinois, Oregon, Washington, and Maryland inline, so you are not stitching two sources together while writing your first policy.
Bereavement is a near-universal benefit, but small firms without HR improvise it
Bereavement leave is one of the most common paid benefits in the country, offered by roughly nine in ten employers, yet the small business without a dedicated HR person usually handles each request in the moment, differently each time. That improvisation is where inconsistency and unfair-treatment risk creep in, and where a grieving employee gets a worse experience than they should. A written policy fixes that: the same clear rule for everyone, decided in advance, so a manager is not guessing during someone's worst week. These templates give that policy in plain language, sized for a company without a compliance team.
A policy is only real if it is acknowledged, applied consistently, and on file
A bereavement policy commits you to specific things: a set number of days by relationship, a request process, confidentiality of any documentation, and consistent treatment across the team. Those commitments only hold up if the policy is actually distributed, acknowledged, and stored, which is hard to do on paper across a growing team. This is where an HR platform helps honestly: FirstHR captures the policy acknowledgment with e-signature during onboarding, the same way it handles the employee handbook, stores the signed policy in the employee profile with document management, and once a request is filed, time-off tracking keeps it consistent. To be clear about scope, FirstHR is an onboarding and HR platform, not a law firm, and it does not run payroll or administer leave benefits, so pair it with those providers and your counsel. The templates below work on their own; FirstHR is how you adopt, sign, and store them.

Adopt, Sign, and Apply

A bereavement policy delivers its value when it is adopted, acknowledged, and applied the same way for everyone. That means adapting the template, collecting signed acknowledgments, applying the written rule consistently when a request comes in, and storing it where you can find it.

Adapt the policy
Choose the tiers and paid amounts, add pregnancy-loss coverage if you want it, add your state specifics, and have counsel review.
Distribute and sign
Share the policy at onboarding and collect a signed acknowledgment with e-signature, the same flow as your handbook.
Apply it consistently
When a request comes in, follow the written rule so every employee is treated the same, and track the time off in one place.
Store and review
Keep the signed policy in the employee record, review it annually as state laws change, and update the last-reviewed date.

The templates above work on their own. To adopt and apply them without paper, FirstHR captures the policy acknowledgment with e-signature during onboarding, the same flow it uses for the employee handbook, stores the signed policy in the employee profile with document management, and keeps time-off requests consistent once a bereavement request is filed. FirstHR is an onboarding and HR platform, not a law firm, and it does not run payroll or administer leave benefits, so connect those separately and consult employment counsel. Applicant tracking is coming soon to FirstHR.

Key Takeaways
A bereavement leave policy sets how much time off employees get after a death, whether it is paid, and how to request it.
Tier the leave by relationship: a common benchmark is around 5 days immediate family, 3 to 4 extended, 1 to 2 close friends.
There is no federal requirement, but six states mandate bereavement leave: California, Illinois, Maryland, Oregon, Vermont, and Washington.
Obligations follow the employee's work location, so a remote team can trigger several states' rules at once.
Modern policies increasingly cover miscarriage and reproductive loss, which Illinois requires and about 39 percent of employers now offer.
These templates are US-first starting points, not certified compliance; have employment counsel review. This is general information, not legal advice.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is a bereavement leave policy?

A bereavement leave policy is a written company policy that explains how much time off an employee can take after the death of a family member or someone close, whether it is paid, who is eligible, and how to request it. A good policy defines the covered relationships, sets the amount of leave (often tiered by how close the relationship is), states whether the time is paid, explains the notice and documentation expectations, and addresses how the leave interacts with PTO, sick leave, and any state law. It usually ends with an employee acknowledgment. Bereavement leave is one of the most common paid benefits in the US, offered by roughly 91 percent of employers per SHRM's 2024 survey, yet small businesses without HR often handle it inconsistently. A written policy gives everyone the same clear, compassionate rule. This is general information, not legal advice.

How many days of bereavement leave should you give?

There is no federal requirement, so the amount is a business decision, but most policies tier leave by relationship. A common benchmark is around 5 days for immediate family (spouse or partner, child, parent, sibling), 3 to 4 days for extended family (grandparents, in-laws), and 1 to 2 days for other close relationships or friends. A simple small-business approach is a flat 3 paid days for any close loss. More generous employers offer 10 or more days for immediate family and allow the time to be used intermittently over several months, since grief is not linear. Whatever you choose, write it down and apply it consistently. Note that some states set minimums you must meet or exceed, such as California's 5 days. This is general information, not legal advice.

Is bereavement leave required by law?

There is no federal law requiring private employers to provide bereavement leave, and the FMLA does not cover grieving a death. However, a growing number of states do require it. Only six states have dedicated bereavement leave laws: California, Illinois, Maryland, Oregon, Vermont, and Washington, and Colorado and Minnesota allow employees to use paid sick leave for bereavement needs. Each works differently. California requires up to 5 days for employers with 5 or more employees, Illinois requires up to 2 weeks of unpaid leave at larger employers and covers pregnancy loss, and Washington provides paid bereavement through its state leave program. Because the obligation follows the employee's work location, an employer with remote workers may be subject to several states' rules. Confirm the requirements for every state where your employees work. This is general information, not legal advice.

Does bereavement leave have to be paid?

It depends on your policy and your state. Federal law does not require bereavement leave at all, paid or unpaid, so whether you pay for it is generally up to you, and most employers do: about 91 percent of US employers offer some paid bereavement leave, per SHRM. State rules vary. California's law is unpaid unless your existing policy provides pay, though the employee may use accrued paid leave, while Illinois requires unpaid leave. Washington's program provides partial wage replacement through the state. Offering paid bereavement leave is a strong retention and culture signal and is the norm, but if you cannot pay for all of it, a common approach is a few paid days followed by unpaid or PTO. Whatever you decide, state it clearly in the policy. This is general information, not legal advice.

Who counts as immediate family for bereavement leave?

Immediate family is defined by your policy, but it typically includes a spouse or domestic partner, child, parent, and sibling, and these relationships usually receive the most leave. Extended family, often a grandparent, grandchild, in-law, or step-relative, commonly receives a smaller amount, and many modern policies add a tier for other close relationships such as an aunt, uncle, cousin, close friend, or chosen family. State laws set their own definitions you must meet. California, for example, defines family member as a spouse, child, parent, sibling, grandparent, grandchild, domestic partner, or parent-in-law, and Illinois includes stepparents and stepchildren. If you employ people in those states, your definition must be at least as broad. Writing the covered relationships into tiers is what makes the policy fair and easy to apply. This is general information, not legal advice.

Does bereavement leave cover miscarriage or pregnancy loss?

Increasingly, yes, and in some states it is required. Per SHRM's 2024 survey, more than a third of employers that offer bereavement leave, about 39 percent, now extend it to a failed pregnancy, surrogacy, or adoption, reflecting a clear shift in what modern policies cover. Illinois requires it: its Family Bereavement Leave Act covers miscarriage, stillbirth, a failed adoption or surrogacy, an unsuccessful reproductive procedure, and a diagnosis that negatively affects pregnancy or fertility, with up to 2 weeks of unpaid leave. Even where it is not required, adding a pregnancy and reproductive-loss section, with strong privacy protections so employees need not disclose the specific event, is a compassionate and increasingly expected practice. The reproductive-loss template on this page provides that language. This is general information, not legal advice.

Can employees take bereavement leave for a friend or a pet?

That depends on how you write the policy, and modern policies are expanding what they cover. Traditional policies limited leave to family, but many employers now include a tier for close friends or chosen family, recognizing that a best friend or a non-legal family relationship can be as significant as a relative. Some employers also add an optional clause providing a day for the loss of a pet, acknowledging that companion animals are family to many people. Neither is legally required in most places, so both are a culture decision. If you want to include them, add a specific tier or clause so managers apply it consistently rather than case by case. The templates here show how to add a close-friend tier and an optional pet-loss clause. This is general information, not legal advice.

How do you handle bereavement leave for a remote team across states?

The key rule is that leave obligations generally follow the employee's work location, not your company's headquarters, so a remote team can put you under several states' bereavement rules at once. If you employ someone in California, Illinois, Oregon, Washington, Maryland, or Vermont, that state's bereavement law may apply to them even if your company is based elsewhere and even if most of your team is in a state with no requirement. The practical approach is a base company policy that is generous enough to satisfy most states, plus awareness of the specific mandates where your people actually work, reviewed as those laws change. The state-aware template on this page is built for exactly this situation. Confirm current rules with employment counsel. This is general information, not legal advice.

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